*You Dont Have To Be Good Just Be Real

July 23, 2007

A little something from Abraham-Hicks on addictions.

Abe: You Dont Have To Be Good Just Be Real

From the Quarterly Journal Apr/May/Jun 1999 (pdf)
From the recording G-9-27-98
Also in GAF98 (ten tapes)
Kansas City, KS

QUESTION: I am a counselor and I work with a number of people who
are seeking assistance or release from a variety of kinds of
addictions: drugs, gambling, food, alcohol. I’m wanting to be of the
greatest assistance I can be to them, and I’d like your assistance.

ABRAHAM: Well, the thing about all of those addictions is that there
is another hunger that is deeper, that is beyond the cellular hunger
for the substance.

Each of you, as you come forth into these bodies, are full of this
Nonphysical Energy Stream that created you and that sustains you.
You are spirit embodied in this flesh, blood, bone apparatus, but
then, as you bang around for a while and you see disapproval in the
eyes of so many, and you, every day, pick up something else that you
push against, little by little you become familiar with disallowing
the Energy Stream.

All feel the diminishment, but some feel it more than others. Those
who come forth with the intense decision that they will stay
connected to the Stream, those who have come forth with very strong
determination to express what they know about this Energy Stream,
they suffer greatly when they choose vibrations that disallow it

But almost nobody is talking about vibration. It would be a rare
alcoholics meeting or drug counseling session where anyone would say
to the one across the table, “Well, you know, you’re holding
thoughts that are keeping you vibrationally separated from who you
really are.” And yet, that is what is at the heart of it. And so,
that void that they are feeling which is the void of joy, the void
of clarity, the void of Energy, the void of life, that is the void
they are trying to fill by buying one more thing and bringing it
home or by utilizing a substance that distracts them, in this
moment, from the things that cause them to push against.

When you utilize a drug or alcohol, your cork floats, in the
beginning, because just like hypnosis or meditation, you are
distracted from whatever thought that is holding you in the slower
vibration. And so, when you’re distracted from what is holding you
there, your vibration raises. That’s why they call it a high.

This is the first thing that, as a counselor, you must accept so
that you can convey it, vibrationally, even if you don’t do it in
words: What they are addicted to is feeling better. What they are
addicted to is feeling better. What they are addicted to is the
higher vibration. And, bless their hearts, they’ve been banging
around until they found some way that they could facilitate that for
themselves. And then you say, “No. This is ultimately bad for you.
It makes you do bad things. And so, we will take this method that
you have found, that is the only method that you have been able to
find for getting yourself into a higher vibration, we’re going to
take that away from you because it isn’t good for you. We’re going
to label you and condemn you and scorn you.”

Much of the population is perfectly willing to be miserable, but
some of you are less willing to be miserable.

We Encourage Connection

We’re not encouraging addiction. We are encouraging connection. But
sometimes it helps if you can convey to them why they have had those
impulses. And some of them are ready to hear that from you, and it
makes perfect sense to them, and some of them are not. We would
rather see someone with a with a relief. We would not take their
substance from them until we had given them an alternative bridge to
connection. But so many people are pushing so hard against the
addiction itself, because they don’t understand it, that those words
would not be well received by them. They think that the first thing
we’ve got to do is get it away from them.

If the users were to withdraw the addictive substance from their
system, after about three days, the cells would stop calling, and
the physical craving would subside, temporarily. But the reason that
they went there to begin with has not been tended to. And so, almost
as soon as they turn around, something is going to remind them of
something that’s going to take them back into that lower vibration,
and then they are going to long for the feeling of relief that the
substance gave them.

Three Days From Freedom

Any physical addiction, it doesn’t matter how long they’ve been
taking it or how full of it their body is, any addiction, would,
between three and thirty days, be completely cleared from the
system. Usually closer to three days than thirty days. But it is the
emotional craving that must be tended to.

What you have to say to a person, and help them to understand,
is, “You are perfectly all right as you are, and it’s nobody’s
business what you’ve chosen.” But that’s not the way most of the
programs go. Most of the programs say, “You must admit what a rat
fink you are. We have a step that says you’ve got to go to all of
those people that you have wronged and you’ve got to open your heart
and you’ve got to admit how unworthy and rotten you are.” It was
that feeling that drove them to drink to begin with, so now, what
you’re saying to them is, “We’re going to take the substance away
that gives you any relief, and we’re going to poke a poker in your
ribs until you want it again. We’re going to torture you back into
the very reason that you drank to begin with, but we’re not going to
let you drink.” And they say, “Okay. Then I’ll jump off a bridge.”
Or they will replace it with something else that is equally
condemned, and probably illegal, which brings all sorts of other
worrisome thoughts.

We Would Soothe Them

What would we do if we were standing in your physical shoes whether
we were a counselor or a friend or even a stranger? One who is
connected to the Stream is more powerful than millions who are not.
If we had the blessed opportunity of having someone like that in our
gaze, we would say, “I wouldn’t worry about it.” We would do
everything that’s in our power to soothe, to soothe the void. We
would appreciate, we would praise, we would point out positive
aspects, we would show them how to pivot, we would teach them about
emotions, we would show them the difference between how this thought
feels and how this thought feels, and we would encourage them to
choose the thought that feels better.

Teach Them Selfishness

Most of all, you have to teach them selfishness. They have to be
selfish enough that they don’t care what somebody else thinks, and
that’s not an easy thing. You all have integrated yourself into a
society where you very much care what people think. That is the
hardest hurdle for most of you to overcome. You do care what others
think because you have trained yourself, most of you, to get almost
100% of your connection to Energy from somebody who is physically
focused and approving of you.

In your early stages, is where most of you begin vying for approval.
You began standing on your head, but what you discover is, you
cannot get that Energy Stream from someone who is not connected to
the Energy Stream. If they are not selfish enough to be connected,
they’ve got nothing to give you. Even though they want to. Your
parents want to give you everything that you need, but they can’t
give it to you if they’re not connected to it. You have all kinds of
people depending on each other for their connection. That’s why
Teachers like us and Teachers like you have come into this physical
time/space reality, to remind you all how to make your own
connection. To help you find your connection with Core Energy so
that you can set your Tone and never again be dependent upon what
somebody else thinks about you. So that if you have a rough day, you
don’t need alcohol or drugs. You meditate and reconnect, or you
quiet your mind, or you appreciate and reconnect, or you choose one
of hundreds of pleasant images that you’ve been practicing that you
keep in your pocket. You get one of them out and roll it around in
your mind. You show yourself how to adjust your vibration. You never
again depend upon the conditions to adjust your vibration. You leave
behind what you have learned about conditional love, and you become
one who loves unconditionally, and in order to do that, you
say, “Nothing is more important than that I feel good.” And in the
beginning, sometimes that means, “I need a drug. I need some
alcohol. I need a friend who is connected. I need a stepping stone
to help me to connect.” And that’s why we say we wouldn’t take the
drug away. We would allow the drug while we teach the greater



4 Responses to “*You Dont Have To Be Good Just Be Real”

  1. abundancelaw Says:

    Sounds like a quote from one of my mentors, Mike Litman.

    “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get going!”

    This works absolutely fine with me (a serial procrastinator).

    Abundance Always!

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  3. Sandra Says:

    I really truly resonate with the above article and i am lookig for like minded people that want to introduce this concept to those struggling with addictions and support them in this. I know of a great eating program that creates stability as well adn i feel that physicallness, combined with right mind thinking which is what hte above is to me, will create positive emotions and positive vibration. Anyone want to collaborate and start creating support groups? sieber.sandra@gmail.com

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